The unfortunate reality is that people will fail you, and you will experience what broken trust does to relationships. I hope that as a consequence, you learn the true value of the faith people place in you. Be worthy of it.
Hypocrisy is not the blanket failure it’s made out to be; we all act in ways that conflict with the image we want to reflect or the values we want to embody. Try not to pigeonhole people with expectations; be forgiving of this inconsistency, both in yourself and in others.
It never works anyway.
Friendship, love, and family don’t hinge on any single success or failure; you would do yourself a disservice to administer litmus tests to things as labyrinthine as love and affection.
Use language that is free from subterfuge to render opinions that are frank, outspoken, and sincere. Choose appropriate moments to do so and strive to be impartial and unreserved. If you can develop consistency and compassion in this regard you will be known as a trusted friend and valued confidant, while simultaneously cultivating an honest and forthright relationship with the observations and emotions roiling about in your own head.
Just go! Go visit your Peace Corps friend volunteering in Guatemala; go wear a fancy dress to the Daytime Emmys; go chat with the boys at the Ghanaian Soccer Academy benefit. When you get an invitation to do something out of the ordinary see it as a little microcosm of life’s possibilities and say “yes,” even if you’re tired, nervous, or uncertain. At least when you’re older, you’ll be able to reflect on your adventures, instead of regretting shiny bubbles of opportunity that floated away while you were moored to the couch.
Stay on point, don’t try to cram too much in, and realize when the conversation is over.
Running a tally of who gets what in life will only frustrate you and annoy everyone else. It serves no purpose; the way life’s benefits and hindrances are doled out will never make any sense.