Prudent Advice

Life Lessons for My Daughter

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#100 I love you.

Your grandmother, my mother, wished that I share this with you here above all of her other gems. I can guarantee you daughter, looking back on the relationship that she and I have shared, that there will be times you just don’t believe it. But it is, and always will be, an absolute unwavering certainty that I Love You.

#99 You are bound to experience disappointment.

Some people will tell you that if you never have any expectations, you will never be disappointed. Taken literally, that point is true. But the ability to remove all expectations from your psyche requires a zen mastery that few people possess. I actually think it is important to have expectations in general. People, especially children, tend to rise to meet them. It’s also about hope and hopefulness. Try to let disappointment be a learning experience from which you gather data about what is reasonable to expect, and don’t let it mar your optimism.

#19 If you have a daughter who can’t sleep sing “In My Life” to her.

This is your favorite lullaby. You gently pat my face with your tiny hands while i sing it to you, and by the end of the second round you are asleep. John Lennon wrote this in 1964, the year after his son Julian was born. It is my personal opinion he wrote it thinking of his baby, and when I hear it or sing it, I think of you.

There are places I remember
All my life, though some have changed
Some forever not for better
Some have gone and some remain
All these places had their moments
With lovers and friends
I still can recall
Some are dead and some are living
In my life I’ve loved them all
But of all these friends and lovers
there is no one compares with you
And these memories lose their meaning
When I think of love as something new
Though I know I’ll never lose affection
For people and things that went before
I know I’ll often stop and think about them
In my life I love you more
In my life I love you more
John Lennon